Elliott Rae

Speaker, Author,
Social changemaker

I specialise in helping organisations support working fathers, improve men’s mental health and engage men in conversations around gender equality

Parenting Out Loud: supporting working fathers for wellbeing and gender equality

The truth about men’s mental health and what we can all do to help

What it means to be a man in 2023: allyship, equality & masculinity

Equal Allies: how men and women can better support each other

Empowering parents to navigate online misogyny with their children

Who am I?

Hello and thanks for your interest in working with me. I am looking forward to talking to you and seeing how I can help to support your goals and aspirations. I am hugely passionate about diversity, equality and inclusion and I enjoy using my voice to connect with people, increase understanding of some important issues and inspire behaviour and culture change.

As well as being one of the UK’s most prominent speakers on fatherhood, masculinity and men’s mental health, I am also the founder of the parenting platform MusicFootballFatherhood, called the ‘Mumsnet for Dads’ by the BBC. MusicFootballFatherhood is all about open conversations around fatherhood and we work with dads through content and community events to discuss topics such as loss, masculinity and mental health. I founded the platform after being diagnosed with PTSD as a new dad after the traumatic birth of my daughter.

I wrote about my PTSD, and bought other dads together to share their stories, in my new book DAD which is an Amazon Top 10 bestseller. DAD is a deeply moving collection of 20 stories that represent the diversity of modern fatherhood and challenges the traditional ideas of masculinity.

I presented the seminal BBC One documentary ‘Becoming Dad’ in January 2022 and I am a regular media commentator on issues around fatherhood and mental health, having written for The Independent and The Telegraph and featured live on Loose Women, BBC News, Channel 4 and Radio 5 Live.

My work was recognised by the United Nations and I was awarded the #HeForShe award by UN Women UK for my work in engaging men in conversations around gender equality.

I am also the co-founder of the Working Dads Employer Awards which celebrates employers that are supporting working dads.

I have had a long career in Diversity, Equality and Inclusion and have held senior roles, including as Head of DEI Delivery at HM Treasury.

You can read more about me and my story here.

How can I help you?

Are you aiming to create a workplace culture where dads are proud to ‘parent out loud’? Are you looking at doing more to support the mental health of your male colleagues? Are you trying to encourage more open conversations about masculinity and allyship and engage more men in your DEI activities?

I’m guessing the answer is ‘yes’ to at least one of those questions! I think I can help.

My work is all about presenting new ideas, creating inclusive environments for open conversations and being a catalyst for culture change. I love to challenge internalised beliefs and highlight how we can take action to create change.

I frequently work with people like you; DEI teams, HR leads, staff parenting networks, gender networks, leadership teams and passionate changemakers through workshops, keynotes and programmes.

All my sessions are emotive, raw, interactive and powerful. They are grounded in personal stories while incorporating the latest research, data and best practise.

I love to learn about your organisation’s challenges and tailor my work to help you to achieve your objectives. I’m here to support, whether by helping to break down ideas about gendered parenting roles, supporting your colleague’s mental health and wellbeing, engaging more men in your DEI and gender equality work, building an inclusive culture with allyship at the core or helping senior leaders to foster more inclusive relationships.


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What our clients say

Workshops and Keynotes

The Culture Change programme: men and masculinity

The aim of the Culture Change Programme is to work in partnership with you to explore how challenging, reshaping and changing attitudes and beliefs towards childcare, masculinity, male vulnerability and allyship can contribute to an inclusive family friendly environment and result in improved wellbeing, mental health, engagement and gender equality.

The programme is perfect for organisations who know they need consistent action to transform culture and engage a large section of their workforce. You may work in construction, engineering, law or any other traditionally male industry with strongly embedded views about how to behave at work for success.

The culture change programme is about doing the deep work. It’s about a longer-term commitment to change. The programme includes a discovery phase, measuring and benchmarking, a series of immersive events with staff and leaders, communications, toolkits and digital assets.

Each programme is tailored to meet your needs and my team and I will work closely with you to provide a full wrap-around consultancy service to help you achieve your desired outcomes.

As Featured In


BBC One documentary – Becoming Dad

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Loose Women – Katie Piper praises Dad who suffered from PTSD after traumatic birth of daughter for raising awareness

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BBC News – I got PTSD after witnessing my daughter’s birth

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The Guardian – Dad’s the word : how the pandemic got men talking about fatherhood

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The Guardian – The struggle of fatherhood is real – so why are new dads often invisible in NHS advice

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Grazia – All dads really want this this Father’s Day is Equal Parental Leave – And to be included in conversations about parenting

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The Telegraph – How childbirth trauma and PTSD led me to start an honest conversation about fatherhood

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Channel 4 Steph’s Packed Lunch – The dads encouraging men to talk about fatherhood –

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The Independent – This is why The Rock’s message about fatherhood is s important to dads like me

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BBC Documentary

On Wednesday 26th January 2022, the BBC aired Becoming Dad – the first TV documentary of its kind to bring issues around dads’ mental health, equal parenting, work-life balance and masculinity to the mainstream.

Becoming Dad is a primetime show that was broadcast on BBC One.

The documentary follows Elliott Rae as he makes his TV presenter debut. The show highlights the experiences and statistics around dads’ mental health and shines a light on how we can all play a part to recognise the importance of dads, de-gender parenting, challenge outdated stereotypes and support dads to be involved parents in the home.

Becoming Dad aims to raise awareness around the changing expectations that modern dads face. This emotional, raw and moving documentary invites viewers to follow Elliott as he relives his daughter’s traumatic birth with his wife, talks to his own dad about their relationship, and meets with expectant dads to talk about their anxieties and concerns.

Awards & Recognition

Blogs and Podcasts

Read Elliott’s bestselling book DAD.

DAD is a deeply moving and inspiring collection of stories that represent the diversity of modern fatherhood and seeks to start a conversation that challenges the traditions associated with masculinity.

DAD includes 20 powerful and defiant stories about postnatal depression, becoming a new dad during the pandemic, miscarriage, widowhood, stillbirth, co-parenting, childbirth trauma, work-life balance, new dads at work, shared parental leave, being a stay-at-home dad, gay fatherhood and surrogacy, being a stepdad, black fatherhood, raising a child of dual heritage, being a single dad, faith and fatherhood, raising a child with autism, gender stereotypes and more.

DAD is an Amazon Top 10 and a Hive Top 20 bestseller. The book has been key to informing Government and NHS policy around supporting dad’s mental health and engaging men through the maternity process.

Music Football Fatherhood

The UK’s most exciting parenting and lifestyle platform for men. “The dads’ version of Mumsnet.” (BBC)

musicfootballfatherhood.com is home to the online community of fathers, and men looking to be fathers in the future, from the UK and beyond. We are a resource and a space where dads can be free to talk, listen and read about things that are important to us; stuff like work-life balance, mental health, raising healthy and well rounded children, money management, relationships and of course music and football. We have content for fathers at all stages of your parenting journey, whether you are an expectant dad, working dad or even a grandad!

The modern father is a new breed. We are way more involved and present than ever before. But every father is different. Whether you are a single parent, father of a blended family, a stay-at-home dad or a father of quadruplets, we are here to inspire, inform and support you on your journey.

Working Dads Employer Awards

The Working Dads Employer Awards were launched in 2022 by Music Football Fatherhood and the University of Birmingham’s Equal Parenting Project. The awards were setup to celebrate and recognise employers that are doing great work to support working dads.

The inaugural launch event was held in Parliament in May 2022 at an amazing ceremony which was attended by some of the key journalists, campaigners and advocates for supporting parents in the workplace. The awards include four categories; flexible working, parental leave policies, supporting returning fathers and leadership and culture. Winners included Aon, John Lewis, Vodafone and Waltham Forest Council.

The awards also encourage employers to think more about what they do in this space and how they can better support fathers in the future to help working families, attract and retain top talent, close the gender pay gap and promote gender equality in the workplace. Partner organisations who have been instrumental in bringing these awards together include CBI, Business in the Community, Working Families, Global Equality Collective, Pregnant and Screwed, Fatherhood Institute and Future Men.

Find out more about the Working Dads Employer Awards here.